MeditationMeditation for PeaceFathers That Children hateFathers That Children hateSometimes when a father is addicted to the roads to ruin, [Apayamukha] and unable to be the leader of the household, the responsibilities fall upon the mother. If this situation occurs regularly in the family, the children will often feel that their father is taking advantage of their mother. Sometimes this feeling is so fierce that they begin to have hatred for their father. If any family is facing this problem, what would be the correct way for children to rectify the situation?There once was a boy who came to see Luang Phaw, in order to consult Luang Phaw about his own father.“Luang Phaw, I feel like my father takes unfair advantage of my mother. He doesn’t care about his children and only looks after himself. He is only concerned about his own wellbeing. During tough times, he lets our mother earn the income to take care of us. He stays home and womanizes with the maid. Will I receive kammic retribution if I hate my father?”Luang Phaw gave this advice to the boy:It is already wrong that your father is not being responsible for his duties. Moreover, seeking comfort in life only for him, and womanizing with the maid, breaks the precept of adultery. He is accumulating tremendous bad kamma on his own.The problems he has with your mother are strictly between the two of them.Luang Phaw wants to remind you, when you look at your father and mother, please consider this: Before any living thing is born, it is necessary for it have a prototype.For instance, if we have a piece of clay and a mold to make a cup, we will get a cup when we put the clay in the mold. If we have a mold for a bowl, we will get a bowl. If we have a mold for a Buddha image, and we put clay in the mold, we will have a Buddha image to pay homage to. This same piece of clay, if used with different molds, will have different values. If we have no mold at all, that clay will just be a piece of clay with no additional value.If people are to be born, they need to have a prototype. If the parents’ prototype is a cow or buffalo, then the child will have to be born as a cow or a buffalo. If the prototype is of a monkey, the child will be a monkey. If the parents’ prototype is a human being, then the child will have to be human, too.Ask yourself: if one, who is clever from the merits of a past life, were to be born in a monkey’s womb, and cried like a monkey at birth, how much would it be able to do?Quit drinking so you can be a good role model for the children.Or ask yourself which situation you would rather be in: To be born a human, with parents who do not take care of you, resulting in you growing up in an orphanage; or to be born as a monkey, yet well taken care of until you are grown. Which situation is preferable?Would you like to be born a monkey? We would not want this because the attributes of a human being are the most suitable for accumulating all forms of merit. We can offer donations [dana], observe the Precepts [Sila] and practice meditation [Bhavana]. We can perform all those things. When we possess the attributes of an animal, we will not be able to perform meritorious deeds, and possess the higher thinking of a human being.If you had the attributes of a monkey, made sounds like a monkey, and lived in the forest, you would not be able to perform any good deeds. You would only be as clever as a monkey, and be a monkey leader leading his group as they swing from tree to tree. You would not be able to do much at all.If you were clever, but with the attributes of a turtle that crawls slowly what could you do? If you were smart, at most you would be the smartest turtle in the world. However, you would still be just a turtle.Since you were born a human, whether you r parents take care of you or not, you should be grateful to them for providing you with the prototype of r a human being. Raising you is extra kindness that you received as a bonus. Moreover, if they left you with an inheritance worth 10, 20 or 100 million baht, it would be added merit. The fact that your parents provided you with the prototype to be a human is beyond anything that you can do to fully repay them. Therefore, do not hate or hurt yur parents, because this is bad kamma.After listening to Luang Phaw discuss this subject, it makes us wonder what would have happened to this child and his family had he not consulted with Luang Phaw.Quit drinking so you can be a good role model for the children. Making them proud is something that a father should strive for because every child hopes to have a gather who is a good person and not an alcoholic. (this part should not be in this chapter. I will find out why it is here)" /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " />
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