Where Does Children’s Good Behavior Come From?#1The short answer is by planting good habits for furtherdevelopment in order for the children to grow up with proper habits.If you ask how to raise a child, what is the answer?The short answer is by planting good habits for further development in order for the children to grow up with proper habits.You should plant into your children, “What do they have (what habits)?” The answer is the foundation of the habits, which are:1) Mai Sab.2) Mai Lang Num Jai.3) Mai Lang Num Jai.Why are these three habits the foundation of the good person?These three factors are the foundation to support the good Dhamma. It will develop more in the future and they will be able to grow to reach their full potential. In comparison to good lands and fields, they are filled with plenty of good soil and can produce good crops and good food yielding bountiful outcomes.These three factors are creating a strong positive support to grow plentiful Dhamma in your children.How can we train children to be disciplined, responsible, clever, pure, kind and generous?The theory to lead our children to have good qualities is not an easy one to lead to accomplishment. But our grandparents worked hard to learn and study until they found out how to be disciplined, responsible, clever, pure, kind and generous from Buddhism.Buddhism is a religion to teach people to be so great in the Dhamma so that they can totally be free from all kamma, evil and sins.Because of this, whenever we study Buddhism, there’ll be questions automatically asked such as, “How can this good dhamma occur in ourselves?”From this issue, it becomes a lesson to train the person’s habits, which starts with an easy question, which is hard to answer:“How do habits occur?”Regarding Buddhism, habits come from “repeating thinking, speaking and doing.”Repeating thinking, speaking and doing in the right way leads to “good habits” and that person becomes a “good person.”Repeating thinking, speaking and doing in the wrong way leads to “bad habits” and that person becomes a “bad person.”Our grandparents realized these facts and then followed with another question, “For their whole life, what do we have to keep repeating thinking, speaking and doing about? How many are there of them? And what are they?The answer is that there are 2 ways to answer these questions:1) The Four Factors In LifeFirst Factor: FoodSince we were born until we die, we have to repeat thinking, speaking and doing about food before anything else. For example, when waking up or before going to work or school, we have to think about what we are going to eat. Even monks have to think about where they will go to get food offerings.Second Factor: ClothingEvery morning, we have to think about what we should wear each day. When going to the mall, we have to think about which dress we should buy.Third Factor: ResidenceWhen it’s raining or when there is sunlight, we have to think about where we should be. We also have to think about where we could sleep at night.Forth Factor: HealthIf we get sick, we have to think about which medicine we should take or wher we should go to see a doctor.Therefore, the four factors in life are the first thing we repeat thinking, speaking and doing every day.2) Responsible Duty And JobIf we have a duty as a parent, the thing that we have to repeat thinking, speaking and doing for the rest of our kids.So there are 2 things that we keep repeating thinking, speaking and doing for our whole lives. Other things are not repeated this much.First thing is that a hot-tempered habit occurs!!!Feeding Time Can Plant Habits For Kids:It’s unbelievable that feeding has an influence on childrens’ habits. When feeding mothers let babies repeat thinking, speaking and doing in the right way, then the baby will have good habits. While the mother is giving the children milk the children will develop good habits. If the children have repeat thinking, speaking and doing in the negative way, then the children develop bad habits.There are 3 examples of children who received the milk from their mothers in different ways, which resulted in different habits.Baby#1 A Non Punctual MealThere are 2 ways to feed the baby: bottle feeding or breast-feeding.In either way of feeding the baby, when the mother can’t always feed the baby on time due to any reason, the baby will cry and scream out loud because of hunger, lf this is a daily situation, what will happen to the baby?First thing is that a hot-tempered habit occurs!!!It is because the mother is planting the habit to the baby. Without early correction, the baby might ruin everything in the future. When the baby wants anything, he/she might just grab from some other child abruptly and he/she might damage it or hurt the other child.Because the mother always missed feeding time, the baby had to scream to ask for a meal. That made the baby get used to screaming and acting angry to ask for something.In some cases this is even worse. A mother who in very rich but might like gambling may miss the baby’s feeding time because she is busily playing cards. She lets the baby cry for hours and she keeps on gambling. The mother will yell at the child for interrupting the card game. The mother will tell the child to go ahead and keep on crying. This causes the baby to be hot-tempered. If you do not correct this. What is the child going to turn out to be? If the child wants something when they grow up, how will they act? Will they have to punch, or rob or what? The mother had raised the child to be a mean tiger!So whenever the baby wants anything, he / she will use his/her energy to scream, fight, and take something from someone else. It’s like a mother who has to take care of a fierce tiger. The baby has a bad habit because the mother plants hot – temperedness due to not feeding the child on time." /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " />
Where Does Children’s Good Behavior Come From?#1
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