How To Plant Habits In Children So TheyWill Become Disciplined And Responsible (Mai Sab)#2Waking up time.2) Punctual Behavior“Time” is one of the humans’ resources, which cannot be returned. If we don’t use it wisely, it’ll bring old age and death to us, and take our good opportunities away.Take a look at our classmates. If the parents try to observe the children’s classmates who study together they will find that some of the friends when studying with their own children are inferior. If they work on projects together some may not work at the same level of standards as their own children. However when they grow up, some of the ones who didn’t get as good a set of grades as our children they grew up, some of the ones who didn’t get as good a set of grades as our children did grew up. In fact, they were good at organizing time, they might even have more work to do than our children do, but they can manage their time well. There is a story of the race between the rabbit and the turtle.If the rabbit runs full speed the turtle will never catch up. But the rabbit stopped to rest a little but and the turtle kept on going. But when the rabbit woke up the turtle already passed him and won. There is also the story of thePrime Minister and a beggar. They have the same amount of time in a 24 hour day. The Prime Minister does many things in a day. But the beggar does only one thing, which is holding up a begging for change.So a person, who can be successful in life, has to know how to organize time well, otherwise s/he will be a harmful person forever. Never finishing anything on time and showing up late will cause others to lose trust and respect for them.If the parents want the children to be a good person and not a “Sab” (undisciplined and irresponsible) person they must train the children to avoid being harmful and they should start with these 3 strict rules regarding:1. Waking up time.2. Bedtime.3. Eating time.Bedtime.1) Teach children to wake up on time.How do you classify waking up late and waking up early?Our grandparents used “Aroon” (the sun or sunrise) to tell. If you wake up before aroon it means you wake up early. If you wake up before aroon it means you wake up early. If you wake up after aroon it means that you wake up after sunrise and you wake up late.What time is called “morning”?In general, we use clocks, representing 24 hours, to start a new day. But our grandparents used the Lord Buddha’s rule by using the morning sun (aroon) to start a new day.To tell the time you have to go in the middle of the field and once you can see palm lines clearly in your hand, that is aroon or morning. That is a new day according to the Lord Buddha’s rule.In summer, the morning begins around 5:40 am. In winter, the morning begins around 5:50 am. Our grandparents used this time to judge the wake up time for their children.The person who is not “Sab” must know how to divide his/her time. So, if any one doesn’t know how to divide the time in this life they will have difficulty being good and will have difficulty managing time correctly. With regards to the way to train the children to manage their time, our grandparents placed the first lesson of time at aroon. The children must wake up before aroon.If any child cannot wake up early, his/her life might be a failure in the future. They will be lazy and put off things until the next day.When s/he grows up. s/he might go to work late, can’t have his/her work done in time, and will become an irresponsible person as the end result.Especially when it comes to girls, they should wake up early everyday in order to have a successful life and avoid a divorce case when they grow up. It is acceptable to wake up late in case of sickness only.There is a poll, which was researched from all over the world that states that one of the causes of divorce is when the housewife wake up late. If husbands wake up before wives, they would see the pale faces and the messy hair of the women sleeping. The husband feels like he sleeps with a ghost. It causes boredom and leads to other issues later until they become divorced.2) Teach children to go to bed on time.Letting children go to bed late causes many problems. When children are small they are very lovely and not naughty but now they will talk back to the parents, and lie to them (some can be good liars) and the parents don’t know why. They might become aggressive children and argue with the parents all the time. Because once they go to bed late, they can’t wake up early. When parents wake them up, they will have all the excuses to go on sleeping. It’s like they practice lying to parents every morning, and the parents become a partner to the lying because the parents accept the lies.How do you solve this problem? It is easy. Parents should set the children’s bedtime to be not later than 8 or 9 pm, and not passed 9 pm.If you let the children go to bed at 10 or 11 pm then the child will have the habit of sleeping late. The first subject of children going to bed late is because the parents let them watch TV. This is because the parents are watching the TV too so the children don’t want to go to bed. They want to stay up with the parents and watch TV.If parents can control children’s bedtime and wake up time, it will be easier to plant all good habits into them, it will be easier to plant all good habits into them. If they don’t the children will talk back to the parents, and train them to be a liar everyday. They will become callous. They don’t have to wait to grow up to build “Sab” because they are building up the “ Sab” all the time. But if you train them to go to sleep early and wake up early all the time at least the parents will have good children who don’t talk back to the parents, are neat and will have good Dhamma going into their minds. The parents can say, “My children are not ‘Sab’.”Eating time.3) Teach children to eat at the proper time.As we know the parents who feed the children on time and feed different children at different times are able to build habits differently. With this subject we have more stories to add. They are:If you want your children to love each other, every one should eat at the same time.If any house has more than three to four children they are going to find a problem that the children are always fighting. If they are looking to know why, they will find that they don’t eat together. How does this happen? If some day the mother cooks delicious food, the children who get home first eat first. On a regular day they have enough food but the day that the food is delicious, they will find that the parents did not make enough food. The children who work hardest in the house won’t have enough food to eat because they came home late. The mother made the food for that child too but he/she won’t get the food. The child will have to eat something else. Then he/she becomes hurt and heartbroken from the mother and the brothers and sisters.This hurt will be stored deep down inside, and in the end one day all of these hurt swill come back up. His/her hurt will come up later on in years. Even if a brother a sister or a mother has broken one glass or has ripped one page out of a book, this child will say you are not my mother, brother or sister anymore. Even if the mother will buy the new glass the child will not want it, say it is not the same and that child will still be mad at the mother the sister or the brother. With this, the child keeps the heart broken sin inside and then it comes out. If any mother lets the children not eat together, especially dinner, which is when the parents should eat with the children, there will be fighting among the children. But parents do not practice that way.Later on when the children grow up they are not going to care for one another. They will stay separated, and if there is something they don’t like then they are going to fight. Even while the parents are still living they will still be fighting and if they die the children will kill each other whenever.So if the parents want the children to be good, the parents must plant the Dhamma foundation. If begins from eating, sleeping and waking up. When the schedule is well plotted, not only will the children have good behavior but they will have good health, and they will be strong too.If your children do not sleep or eat on time it makes the elimination systems not function on time either. If the elimination systems do not function on time either. If the elimination systems do not function on time what will happen? When the children are in the class and they have to go to the bathroom, they cannot so they hold it. The end result is that chronic constipation occurs. Some children will have chronic diarrhea because they lose their proper function. If makes these children have chronic diseases.If the parents take care of the schedule the children will not only have good health and good habits, but the parents even if they do not know about the Dhamma, are helping to prevent the “Sab” from occurring in the child. Then the Dhamma, even if you don’t know the name or meaning like Hiri-Otappa (mpral shame and moral dread = the fear of doing the wrong thing and the fear of the consequences of doing the wrong thing) will develop. This is the easy way to plant Dhamma for the child.But if every one in the family has their meal at the same time, they’ll share it equally. That means parents plant the habits of staying together in peace for them." /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " />
How To Plant Habits In Children So They Will Become Disciplined And Responsible (Mai Sab)#2
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