How To Plant Habits into ChildrenTo Be Kind And Generous (Mai Lang Num Jai)#4Money can’t buy all happiness.How To Plat Providence Towards Desire Of Money To ChildrenParents have to teach children to understand that:1) Money can’t buy all happiness.It can’t buy family,Or lead to solving problems,Or understanding each other,Or purity of minds.2) Human being’s happiness comes from:2.1) Having money.2.2) Spending money.2.3) No crookedness in work.2.4) No debts.Thins happiness occurs when the money is from honesty.3) If we have crooked money, we will have 4 sufferings:3.1) If we have crooked money, we will have 4 sufferings:3.2) Suffering from spending money that is from a dishonest origin.3.3) Suffering from working with effects without knowing when you will be punished.3.4) Suffering from being in debt, especially debt of sin.4) Saving habits are good.A sign to tell children to be patient towards the desire of money that will create stability is saving. Parents should ask the children if spending the money is necessary or not. If the children cannot furnish good reasons for the money then parents shouldn’t give it to the children.To train children to save, parents have to save to be the examples for them to abide by these rules. Don’t let the children think that money can come easily.4.1) Train children to know the value of money.When children ask for money, parents should ask for reasons why. If it’s irrational, parents should explain the reason for refusal. Don’t just give money because the children are annoying you for it. They should know that parents have to work hard to earn money so they should spend money wisely.4.2) Train children to skip unnecessary purchases.Parents shouldn’t buy any unnecessary things for children. Parents should teach them to use things that are worthy and take care of their belongings well.4.3) Train children to spend time wisely.Children should be taught to create their own belongings or toys, so they will be creative and proud of themselves when it’s done.A sign to tell children to be patient towards the desire of money that will create stability is saving.4.4) Train children to save money.Parents should find some saving box for them to save money every day. When they get money gifts from relatives on special occasions (birthday or New Year’s etc.), parents should bring them to deposit it in the bank. This way they learn to save money for future needs and education.4.5) Choose friends with saving habits for the children.Children should have friends with saving habits and habits to help parents. Avoid people who don’t use their money wisely.4.6) Train children to know the needs and the excesses of life by practicing the 8 Dhamma rules on special occasions and Buddha Days.Parents should bring them to the temple to let them learn the 8 Dhamma rules. It will teach them to know the needs and the excesses of life, which is based on the 4 factors of life.Children will realize that making up, watching soap operas, and going to the movies, and being fashionable are not necessary things in life at all.Practicing the 8 Dhamma rules will train them to save and know how to spend money more wisely.If parents can train children to follow as these 4 rules, they will be able to get throught the desire drive of money which is illegal and dishonest. Even if someone tries to force him/her to do so; they will be able to use their intelligence to solve the problem well.Train Children To Be Patient Towards The Desire Drive Of Compliments.“One does not get easily angry when getting complimented. Not smiling is very hard, but not appreciating when getting compliments is harder.”This statement is real in our society. It has spoiled many peoples’ habits. When people get compliments all the time, they will stick to the praise.When someone complains to them, they will be angry and ready to fight with that person. Finally, no one will warn them when seeing any mistakes because they became the praise hungry already.The praise hungry will always be fussy when no one gives them compliments. Then it becomes an automatic force that no one can complain to them, but will only compliment that person for their work.They will not want to work without compliments. When someone else is about to be successful, they will try to help him/her to finish the work so they will get compliments too.We can see that the work will not be effective if we are going to stick to the praises and compliments.Train children to know the value of money.How To Train Children To Be Provident Towards The ComplimentThe easy way is not to give so many compliments to children that they will stick to it, such as “Son, you are the greatest. You are clever and no one be as good as you.” This a no-no. This will make them believe so. In fact, they can be good because the parents teach them.Parents and teachers have to train and teach them so much in order to make them intelligent. They are not intelligent by themselves.If children are intelligent, parents should tell them, “You are intelligent because mom and dad support you to study. Teachers have to train and teach you so bard. Your uncle brought good books for you to read. So you should pay respect to him.”This will teach children to feel thankful to good people instead of thinking that they are better than others.On the other hand, if children are not good at studying, parents should encourage them and give them cheer. Give inspiration to them that they will be able to do it.Everybody has good points. So whenever children are upset or depressed, parents should catch good points to inspire them. And when they are successful, parents should tell them to think of the helpful persons.For intelligent children, parents have to be careful. If they always get the top scores, they will be very disappointed when they get lees.There is an example of a Thai medical student. He was so intelligent that he always got the best scores. He hoped to get honors, but he missed them. He was so disappointed that he committed suicide.So parents can give compliments to children when they are good. But don’t give it to them too much that they stick by it. Parents should support them to think of helpful people who assisted in making them intelligent. Then children will e willing to help others.Therefore, children who pass these 4 training rules will be able to rele to rely on them selves. They can live in the world proudly. They will be willing to pay back the support from parents and other helpful people as best as they can." /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " /> " />" /> " />
How To Plant Habits into Children To Be Kind And Generous (Mai Lang Num Jai)#4
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